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由“我的美国老公教会了我什么是爱情”想到的......
作者:fleur
来源:未名交友
I got up late this morning.
Last night, I watched world series half-heartedly. I am not really into this series. While I am happy for WhiteSox and Astros, I can't help thinking what if Phillies made the playoff. To me, Phillies blew a golden opportunity to win something. Oh well, it is always easier to second-guess.
In the to-do list of my desktop, I got plenty left. Ahead of me is another busy day. However, I feel happy. The nicest feeling is self-satisfaction. As long as one is happy about what he does, he is a lucky man.
As I took a morning coffee break, I glanced the front page of MITBBS. A seemingly daunting title jumped into my eyes (http://www.6park.com/life4/messages/90829.html). Although it's repulsive to Chinese men in general, I felt for her after reading the article. The overall negative comments were expected. One poster even used "bitch", which I thought is a bit over-the-line. I am not here to criticize the narrow-mindedness of Chinese males, as I am one of them. I just could not understand the harsh feelings some had, to her or to somebody else who was involved in a similar situation.
If you are a man reading this, ask yourself, are you willing to take a divorced woman in her thirties as your wife without any reservation? Will you be able to love her, care about her, feel for her or even sacrifice for her? If your answer is no to either question, you do not have right to judge. In some sense, most of the Chinese (males) would not say yes. The Chinese culture puts too much weight on issues such as virginity, but too little on human personality. Those who are in the situations of the original poster(OP) are considered leftovers who do not deserve love. It is PATHETIC.
I have no intention to laud Americans either. They are brought up in a culture that every wrongdoing can be forgiven, as long as the wrongdoer is sincere. Here, we are not even talking about wrongdoings. Like the punch line in Desperate Housewives--Everyone has a little dirty laundry, everyone has a history. The history is with him/her, no matter how he/she feels about the past. If you love somebody, love her with everything you have. If you just want to get a partner to get rid of your loneliness, do not even bother making comments when others talk about love.
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